A little over a year ago my best friend and I were babysitting a group of kids that we watched every week. The oldest girl of the group, an eight year old, was playing on the swing set with one of the younger boys. The adventurous young girl was telling the boy about how she had fallen from the top of the swing set a few weeks earlier. When the boy asked if she had cried, her response left me speechless. She said, “No. Because when you’re older there’s less pain because you’ve already been through the scary things.” I could not believe that had just come out of the mouth of an eight year old. I wrote it down word for word in my notes so that I could remember it forever.
My mom’s “pre-trial” took place around November 2011. I put pre-trial in quotes because it wasn’t the real thing since her actual trial didn’t occur until 2015. I was sitting at my grandparent’s dinning room table with my aunt and brother. Everyone else was at the court hearing. We had KFC for lunch and we had saved a piece for my mom because our hopeful hearts thought that a miracle would occur and they would let her go during the pre-trial. I remember my aunt telling me how sorry she was that we were having to go through this at such a young age. I told her, “Well, at least it means I’ll have an easy adulthood.” Mind you I was barely 12 years old when I said this. In my mind I thought that since I had already gone through enough traumatic events for a lifetime, that meant smooth sailing from there on out. Young me would soon realize I was very wrong.
I recently watched the movie The Shack and my eyes were opened to so much revelation. I never believed that God chose to make bad things happen to us, but part of me questioned why He didn’t stop it. Some people say that God gives trials to test our faith. However, I always wondered why God had to give me such a big one. After watching The Shack I truly understood the answer to my question. Tragedy happens because of mankind’s choices and sin. God does not cause bad things to happen to us. But instead He brings “incredible good out of unspeakable tragedies”. If you are apprehensive as to why bad things happen, you need to watch or read The Shack. I gained so much understanding from it.
I also came to the understanding that we aren’t each given one hard thing to overcome and then we are good to go. Some of us will face bump after bump. Whereas others will go through life with maybe only one flat tire. In my opinion, pain does not get easier as you face more tragedies in life, but instead you have a better understanding on how to deal with it. There is still so much truth behind the little girl’s quote. For example, when I was younger I thought that the dark was very scary, but as I got older I realized that as soon as I turned on the lights the darkness went away. We do become braver as we grow older and the scary things start to become less scary.
Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God knows exactly what is going to happen in our lives. What may seem like a ton of giant potholes in our path of life, are truly just chapters in our stories. Friends, we must grow through what we go through. There will be less pain after we go through scary things because we will have overcome them.